There isn’t a one-size-fits-all when it comes to toys aimed at providing accessibility or inclusion, just like there isn’t one type of disability. Very few toys or brands are actually made with disability at the forefront, the exception being Cute Little Fuckers, a queer,- trans-, and disabled-owned sex toy brand. (I tested three of the brand’s toys, above.)
So instead, I thought of my own needs as someone with upper-limb disabilities, and I talked to other disabled folks, including those who use wheelchairs or have lower-body disabilities, to find out what they look for in their sex toys. This included tools like slings, pillows, and chairs that help with positioning during sex (or solo play). (More on that below.)
Since I have a vagina and upper limb disabilities, many of the toys I tested were aimed at people like me, but many, like app-connected G-spot and clitoral toys, have similar versions with the same in-app features, except for people with penises or those that prefer anal play.
I took many factors intro consideration, including weight, length, girth; whether the toy was easy to hold or could be wedged; if you could just lie on it or use in multiple positions; and if it could be controlled via buttons (and how difficult those might be to press), in-app, or with a remote control. Once the individual realizes what they need from a toy to make it work for their body and ability, it’ll be easier to narrow down the toy that’d work best.
I tested several sex toy holders, including those that fit into a pillow for mounting or lying, and a sex toy holder that suctions to surfaces or straps into place. I also tested several toys that someone can just grind against, lie on, or sit on.
I wasn’t able to test a hand harness to keep the toy in your hand, as it didn’t fit my small hand, but these can be a more controlled way to hold a sex toy rather than wedging with pillows, grinding on, or using a surface mount.
The Liberator Wedge also came highly recommended to me, but I also wasn’t able to test it. This angled pillow makes sex easier for those in non-normative bodies or for those who suffer from pain, as they can reach the angles and positions needed to relieve pressure. As I mentioned above, a pillow also helps to achieve deeper penetration with partners with smaller penises or bigger bodies, where genitals can be trickier to reach without additional help.
Brands like IntimateRider make chairs and sex accessories for wheelchair users, paraplegics, and others who have spinal cord injuries and similar disabilities where traditional sex may not be an option without these valuable tools.
