The internet has accused the man of returning the wedding dress paid by his partner and has been harshly criticizing his actions.
The now viral post, which has collected 11,500 votes, is titled “AITA, which set out to become a husband soon to return my wedding dress,” and was subreddit “Am I the A ** hole” on May 26. It was shared with. .. Redditor @ Sealine5033A 29-year-old woman and her fiance, a 33-year-old man, will soon get married.
according to knot In an actual wedding survey of 15,000 couples married in 2021, the average cost of a wedding dress was $ 1,800. In addition, 99% of those identified as women revealed that they were wearing dresses for their wedding.
“So far, the marriage plan is on track. [a] Like the venue and the flower girl, he and I rarely argued. “Now we are discussing my wedding dress.”
The woman revealed that she had dreamed of “my beautiful wedding dress” from a young age. She can afford it, but her fiance doesn’t think it’s okay to “waste” thousands on the dress she wears only once.
The OP admitted that he could have points, but she replied by telling him that she was paying a “typical” price for a wedding dress. And in her opinion, it’s “If it’s a once-in-a-lifetime thing, why not make sure it’s something special?”
However, the female fiancé was not completely “convinced”, so he suggested that she rent a wedding dress instead of buying it entirely. He says she is “irresponsible for money” and she has already taken to “borrow a face” (he means makeup) and wear “fake” hair (he means extension) I mentioned the amount of cash I had.
But OP has a “vision” about what she wants to be on her wedding day, and she believes it is her “right” as a bride. She eventually bought her wedding dress, but just one day later she noticed it was gone from the closet.
“I was surprised,” OP said, “but he told me he returned it and got the money back. I was shocked and asked him why he did it. , And he said he thought the dress was ridiculously expensive and it wasted money, and again suggested that I go borrow it.
But that wasn’t the only thing. The woman admitted that she “started crying” in her fiance, which she had never done before. He stepped back a little and told her to “calm down.” She told him she had no rights because it was she who was paying for the dress.
“He’s upset, he’s not’paying for himself’to get married, and my attitude sets the tone for how dynamic our marriage will be. I said, “she continued. “He continued about how I should expect to pay him everything while I hold’my money’or spend it irresponsibly (but) , I never teach him how to use his money). Any money. “
A female partner told her she should stop with “grow f ** k” and “the cliché of a dream wedding dress”.
She added that he would leave and call the mother who was also involved, chew the OP, and she wouldn’t ruin her son’s “financial stability” by dealing with money. She also advised the OP to rent a dress or get a cheaper dress and continue, but Redditor “declined.”
Regarding the couple’s economy, they agreed that within a year or two of marriage, and when her partner settled on his new job, they were separate from “considering joining them.” I have. But her partner said he would “rethink” it if the OP kept it.
In another comment, the woman said, “Money has never been a problem.” But she has no idea why he “continues to be stressed” about it. He wants less spending, even for other things that aren’t related to the wedding. He reduced eating out and said, “Monthly purchases like electronics and furniture sound overkill to me. What’s more worrisome about it is that he does this with him and my money.” ..
She also added that her fiance still had money from the dress, and he said he would return it to her when they reached a solution.
Redditor’s reaction: “Red Flag” wedding
With over 4,000 comments on the status of the virus, people are fully supporting the woman while beating her husband to return her dress.
Redditor believes women should call on men’s authorities to “stolen thousands of dollars from her instead of marrying him, but I’m the only one,” and the wedding theme is “danger signal.” Added.
“The bridesmaid wears red,” they said. “The groom wears a red suit, and the passage is lined with larger and larger red flags until he reaches the altar, which is actually a tent made of one giant red flag.”
Another user thinks the OP is okay and doesn’t even care if the dress was $ 10 billion, adding that he won’t return the bride’s wedding dress without first speaking.
“And finally, when I checked, your mother-in-law should have zero say about how you spend your money, not your accountant,” they added. “If your fiance wants to discuss budget issues as a couple, that’s great! It’s a great responsibility. He throws temperamental tantalum and then cries to mom.”
Some people were asking the woman straight to leave her future husband on top of the stunts. “NTA [not the a**hole], Throw away his a **, “Redditor said. Escape far from this mess. Otherwise, you will regret it later. “
Another said, “NTA, he incredibly controls and denies your opinion. It’s your money and it’s an incredibly special day. I despise me like this. You won’t marry the person who did it, and you shouldn’t. “
One Redditor said that if they were in the position of a woman, the man would guarantee that she would not have access to her financial information, saying, “NTA. Someone is sure about what this marriage will look like. You, I would have been running in the opposite direction of all the red flags he was waving. “
Some users labeled the situation as financial abuse, and one such user called a woman “crazy” when she married a man.
“This is just the beginning of his financial abuse,” they said. “The fact that he holds your money is daunting. There are many red flags here. Reaching an agreement means giving in to what he wants. Please note that this is your future. “
Newsweek I contacted Redditor @ Sealine5033 for comment.
This is not the only viral moment, including a wedding.
The groom was beaten up for Do one thing the bride told him not to do on the wedding day..
Also the bride I shut my sister-in-law out of the wedding because she was too cute..