Dad got online support after sharing on Sunday Now virus posts His wife wants to change the name of her 1-year-old daughter.
Post RedditIn the “AmITheA ** hole” (AITA) forum username u / Ok-Toe-5157, Dad asked, “As for my daughter’s name, AITA who stuck to my gun?” This post collected over 9,600 votes and 1,300 comments from Redditors who supported her father for his wife’s “disturbing” behavior.
“When my wife and I were about to get pregnant, we [had] “In the case of a boy, she can choose her full name, and if she had a daughter, I would choose,” the father said at the beginning of his post. Like a name chosen by others. “
During her pregnancy, the male wife was convinced that they were giving birth to a boy, so she requested a “masculine” gift for a baby shower. But when she gave birth, the couple realized that they actually had a girl.
“I wanted both boys and girls, but I was ecstatic because I always imagined my firstborn to be a girl,” the man wrote. “My wife was seemingly exhausted, but she was happy. When I wrote her name [on] On the birth certificate, I informed her that I was already using a name that had passed her. “
The couple allegedly agreed to the name when the daughter was born, but the man recently discovered that his wife was calling her daughter by a different name.
“Now, a year later, I came back from work and found MIL. [mother-in-law] The wife there was talking about my daughter, but only they use a different name, “he said.
His wife then proposed to legally change the daughter’s name to the “female version” of the boy’s name she chose, but the man said “no.” In response, his wife accused him of being “non-supportive” and “dominant,” and said he “stolen the right to name the child she gave birth to.”
“The whole family except my FIL [father-in-law] “I call it dominating me and I chose the whole name and made it all about myself, how unfair it is,” he said.
According to todayA 2012 UK survey found that “choosing a baby’s name is the most common battle among pregnant parents.”
“Choosing a name takes advantage of previously unexplored deep questions about family, tradition, gender, image, and one’s identity. It may be the first important test of control and compromise. The problem of choosing a name can be felt more and more, and I’m worried because I think it should be very easy and fun, “said Pamela Redmond Satran of Nameberry.com via today.
To relieve tension, Nameberry advised couples to set up “Baby Name Rotation” or “Gender Name Separation”.
Of course, u / Ok-Toe-5157 and his wife separated their names by gender. With this in mind, many commenters endorsed that u / Ok-Toe-5157 refused to rename his daughter.
“NTA [not the a**hole].. It’s creepy. Your wife is fighting over her name with your mother-in-law, and they didn’t tell you that there was nothing big betrayal to you, “u / ladygreyowl13 wrote. Your mother-in-law is lost. “
“How predominant and unfair to claim that your daughter’s name is her name? You just have the agreement that she chooses the boy’s name and your girl’s name. No, you both had the right to veto … the only one who controls here is basically changing the name of the daughter to the name of the boy she chose after 12 months That’s what I’m trying to insist on. It’s weird and mildly anxious, “says u / shontsu.
Redditor u / Fine_Following_2559 added:But your wife and her mom are both AH [a**holes].. “
Newsweek I contacted u / Ok-Toe-5157 for comment.
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